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Anonymous asked: Wow, way to be really aggressive and shitty to somebody brave enough to ask you for an unusual sex act and trying to use what they think is the appropriate term for it. Really great way to build trust between partners and encourage people to push beyond their vanilla boundaries. I know when I first started playing around with different things I loved it when I used the wrong word for something and got called a coward and told to shut the fuck up. Because we're all bravest and most confident when
I don’t know where the rest of this question went but just as well because I’m over it.
Anon, please link where I called someone a coward for their sexuality.
What I said was that I personally find it problematic when a word is created for cisgender heterosexual men who don’t want to use the phrase “anal sex” because of their homophobia. The problem isn’t the word. The problem is the reason the word exists.
If you think pegging is a cute term, whatever floats your boat. By all means, call your sexual activities whatever you like. But I won’t fuck anyone in ass unless they are able to ask for it. Plainly without super special privileged code words and without worrying about looking like “one of THOSE people” (read: people like me, my friends and family, aka QUEERS). Like I said, no one else gets ass fucked with a dildo and gets a cutesy phrase. So in my eyes, straight men don’t get one either.
As for my relationship with my clients, perhaps I’m shitty and they like it? Doesn’t really matter because you don’t pay my mortgage. As a side note, part of my work in the sex industry involves education. So let me take you to school real quick… clients don’t always know how to phrase things inoffensively. But one of the reasons I love my job is the fact that I set the standard for my work environment. You pay to see me, you get me. You get MY rules and MY terms. And you deal with me on MY level. People who want my time learn fast.
And as for being aggressive… I take that as compliment so eat my ass.